Tuesday, April 17, 2007

"This house believes divorce is a social ill" Do you agree?

I do not agree to a certain extent. Although divorce has been very common nowadays, this does not mean that it is a negative influence on the society. Divorce also has its positive effects.

Firstly, those who are divorced would developed a sense of freedom especially when they realise that there is no need to perform duties that are expected from their roles.

Secondly, after divorce, both parties do not need to quarrel over differences or issues concerning their family. This will reduce tension and stress for both of them and thus they are able to focus on other things such as their work. In addition, with less planning needed, they have more time to do other activities they want. Lastly, there will be more stable or peaceful homes. Those who have divorced are usually the ones who have disagreements with the other party and no longer have feelings for each other. With more divorces, there will be lesser family issues for family relations organisations to deal with.

However, divorce has its negative effects. I will talk about the impact of divorce on the child in the family. Divorce happens when both parties no longer have feelings for each other or even due to disagreements on a certain issue. This will in turn results in the children becoming the "middleman" of the issue. Both parties will fight for the custody of child and some may even leave the child under the care of the other party. This will cause the child to have a single-parent family, which not only means that the financial burden of the parent gets heavier but also the children will think that they are "unwanted".

Next, I will talk about the impact divorce has on the mindset of adults. With increasing divorce rates, people may feel insecure and not confident of a marriage. This will result in them thinking that marriage always fail which in turn stops them from getting married. With lesser marriages, it means that more people are missing an important part of their life. Marriage is supposed to be a formal bond between a couple who have strong feels for each other and would like to spend the rest of the lifetime with each other. In addition, they will get to experience many new happenings such as "constructing" a family, planning the future together and many more.

In conclusion, I feel that divorce is not a social ill because it does do good to the singles. However, it should also be look into seriously.

Wei Kiat

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